Stеven Grantham lies in his testimony to the Superior Court of California multiple times, threatens to kill his husband on the Internet, and then defames his husband publicly on social media sites

May 2016 At this time my husband Stеven Grantham started to have difficulty at work. He constantly would complain that he was right. No one listened to him, and that he was not valued. This mental state was carried over by him into the home. I had a discussion with him one evening when I came home from work. I told him that I hated coming home everyday from work. He constantly was bullying me into doing things his way. He would micromanage all of the house work and never help. I told him that I was not going to live this way any longer. He immediately began to complain about his work making him this way. I reminded him that we were in our home and that we both deserve the right to be happy in our home. After this we began to spend more time apart. Over the next three years I attended brunches with friends, went to art galleries and museums, and took our pet dog on amazing walks and hikes almost exclusively without Stеven as he seemed to have something better to do then spend time with his closest family. I asked Stеven to seek out therapy to discuss the way he behaving and he refuses stating, "My people don't do therapy". He finally started seeing a therapist in 2020 after he had attacked me twice in the home for bringing up the topic of divorce. Another topic that enrages him and he mentions often that if we have a divorce he will make sure that it is not an amicable easy separation but financial and time burden specifically for me. July 2019 Stеven makes arrangements and gives an offer to allow an acquaintance of mine that he had recently befriended Javier (James) Howie Bad DJ Ramirez to stay in our home. He intended for James to be third person in our relationship. James is a man known for selling drugs (methamphetamines), theft, prostitution, and violence. Things in the home quickly went from James being allowed to store "some stuff' in our home to all of his belongings arriving at our home. Soon after Stеven told James that he could stay for a few weeks in hopes that Steve would be the missing piece to our severely strained relationship. He never told James that this was his plan. He soon told me that he wanted James to join our relationship. I made it clear to Stеven that this was not what [ wanted. He refused to listen and insisted that I "just try it out". Often in the mornings because I would be the first person awake, I would find them naked in bed together. Meanwhile Stеven continued to make excuses why he wouldn't sleep in the same bed as me. He soon began to become angry with James for not understanding his unexplained romantic intentions. Eventually this led to screaming matches between Stеven and James. Stеven demanded that I be involved in the arguments to support him, even though I had made it clear that I was not happy with the living situation in our home. At this point I felt unwelcomed in my own home and lived almost exclusively in the master bedroom feeling unwelcomed or like I was sitting in the middle of a bizarre lovers quarrel that I was required by Stеven to mediate but also back up his narrative exclusively. After nearly $3000 in property damage to the front of our home and paying out of our own pockets to move and store for 2 months all James's belongings in a storage facility, we officially had the home back to ourselves on a Saturday evening. Monday evening 2 days later as I am on my way home from work Stеven notifies me that he has brought James back into our home and also brought his ex-boyfriend with him also. This brings up to October 2019, when I reached out to my doctor and let her know that I wanted to be referred for a therapist and a psychiatrist. The position that Stеven was constantly placing me in at home had begun to build a sense of regret and dislike for my home environment. After my Second appointment, I tell Stеven about what I learned about myself and how my home life is not sustainable for me. He then declares that my therapist "cannot do her job right", and that he wants her name so that he "can report her top an ethics board", Shortly after James and his ex-boyfriend Dane move in, Stеven and James get into a fist fight because Stеven insists that James leave because James will not meet the commitments that he suggested to Stеven that he would perform, specifically sex acts. I am again required to moderate my husband breaking up with his boyfriend that never wanted to be his boyfriend, that I repeatedly insisted not be allowed in my home. James just wanted to not live on the streets. November 2019 Dane continues to live with us. Stеven has installed Cameras all over the house to ensure that Dane and James are not plotting to take or destroy anything in our home. Stеven constantly pushes me to talk to Dane about alleged conversations that Dane has with James all the time specifically about Stеven. Stеven knows this because he stays up all night watching the video cameras and repeating and listening to the grainy audio picked up by the microphones in the small cameras. Stеven becomes obsessed with improving the security of our home, all while befriending James again, and then yelling at both Dane and myself for James and he not being friends, this cycle repeated at least 3 times. On the Thanksgiving holiday 2019 1 went to Arizona to visit my mother who was in the hospital and just diagnosed with cancer. Stеven invites James to a thanksgiving meal at our home while I am out. During the evening that James was in my home he was allowed to steal multiple items from several different rooms in the home. Stеven does not even notice the items are missing until I get home and ask specifically about them. December 2019 James and Stеven's "on again off again relationship" continues except now Stеven refuses to tell me about it. He just leaves the home and doesn't come back until early the next day. I discuss this with my therapist, the fact that I just don't want to be in a destructive relationship with Stеven anymore, he has allowed our home to become his battleground and no one in the home is safe from his uncontrolled emotional rants and abuse. Dane is still living with us and has now become a target for Stеven's anger as he constantly insists that Dane and James are plotting a home invasion. One day in December Stеven is having a "good day" which to him only because he thinks he has salvaged his relationship with James. Stеven tells me that James has asked about my mother's health and that I should call James, my husbands boyfriend that I absolutely want nothing to do with anymore, and talk to him about what is quickly becoming the disease that will take my mothers life. My therapist suggested in December that I take a couple of days off away from the home and relax, to use the time to think about if I want to end my relationship with Stеven. I make plans to stay with a friend in the valley for 2 days and 2 nights. As I attempt to explain that I need to get away and relax for a couple days. Stеven insists that I move out of the master bedroom immediately. He literally unlocks the door with a key and begins throwing me out of the master bedroom. Because he is in an incredibly aggravated state I quickly leave the room in fear. I was led to believe he was moving back into the master bedroom with me. Instead I move into the remaining guest bedroom that is covered with all of Stеven's belongings strewn all over the place. As I begin to move into the room it is apparent that he thinks I am going to move his stuff out of the guest room. I am furious as I spend days cleaning the room only to be told to come back another time when I attempt to ask to move my belongings to the guest bedroom. Stеven insists that I keep my belongings with him and ask permission to have access to them. As I begin to forcibly collect my clothing for work Stеven raises his voice and will not stop arguing with me. He corners me in the guest bedroom where he has allocated me to now live and he finds me removing more of his belongings from a drawer in the dresser, He slams the drawer on my fingers, I fall to the floor in pain and he makes fist like he is going to punch me and screams, "don't you dare get up, and you know this isn't an act of violence, your hands were in that drawer with my stuff in it". At the end of December 2019 1 leave the house for at least one night away. Stеven insists that I come and talk about our relationship and all of the so-called issues that are my problem. He accuses me of leaving to go have sex with this friend. I get into the car and drive away. He calls me all night. He sends me text messages all night. He threatens to call the police on me for driving the car that I service and pay insurance for even though Stеven refuses to meet the commitment that he made to sign the vehicle over to me. He always uses the vehicle as a pawn to control me, almost always as I am trying to leave for work. He takes the keys and refuses to return them. His use of bullying, his fits of rage, and his violent nature led to my decision to carry pepper spray at all times in the home. Stеven's fits of rage and attacks on me severely affected my ability to do my job. I missed work at least two days a month and was late almost 90% of the time because Stеven decides that his temper tantrums are the more important than anything else. Upon my return home from my break from my time away, I tell Stеven that I thought about a lot of things over the course of the night and next day, all while he continued to message and accuse me of anything all night long, and I decided that I had decided that I wanted a divorce. Stеven went into fits of rage and crying. The date was December 29th. Things were not very pleasant in our home for the next few days. On January the 2nd my sister called me and told me that I had to fly home immediately. I managed to catch a flight to Tucson AZ that evening and I was able to spend a day with my mother incapacitated in the hospital before she passed away early morning on the 4th of January 2020. Stеven insisted that he would be there for me during this time and that once I had time to get over the passing of my mother we could talk about the future of our relationship. His demeanor at the time was welcome. My hope that sharing in the grief of my mothers quick losing battle with cancer together would perhaps build a stronger bond between us. I was picked up at the airport and immediately involved in Stеven's inability to function. His car, less than a year old, was having electrical issues. I was not prepared to interact with someone in this state after spending time mourning with my family all I really needed was some time for introspection. Instead I was picked up by an angry husband, angry at his car, angry at the Honda care representative that answered his call, and then once arriving at the Honda dealership he was so angry with the manager that they threatened to call the police unless he left immediately. He stormed out of the dealership to our other car where I was waiting. He immediately began screaming at me. He manufactured in his mind that everything was my fault. After a week and a half I was told, "you need to hurry up and get over your dead mom, because we needed to get to work on our relationship". I was made to feel guilty for mourning. Mourning that it was obvious that I was never going to be able to do with Stеven in my life. February 2020 At the beginning of the month Javier (James) Howie Bad DJ Ramirez uses Stеven's credit card to pay for his storage space. This begins Stеven's primary focus in life, ruining James's life. For the previous 5 months I had asked that Stеven walk away from James. For 5 months Stеven had multiple opportunities to focus on our relationship. He instead spends more time focusing on his desire for a romantic relationship with James than he spends with me his husband. This relationship with James is not a healthy relationship as anyone is able to point out through the actions of care by Stеven for James, and the destructive nature by which James uses Stеven's resources and keeps Stеven from addressing the issues he has with his husband. The funeral service was 4 weeks after my mom passed away. At the reception following my mothers funeral Stеven specifically told me that I was a horrible person for not being thankful to him for helping me during the entire process. He complained that he had to continue to move me around the reception so that I could have a chance to meet all of my parent's wonderful friends. This was not something that I asked him to do. There were approximately 150 people in my parent's home, my mom was dead, and I was incredibly surprised that I didn't spend the entire event crying. I was thankful that Stеven was there for me. He then told me that it was a horrible day for him, because he was never given a chance to mourn the passing of my mom. I was again made to feel like my feelings were never important to him at all. The next day at the airport he blew up at me again. He would not tell me why and instead insisted on storming off leaving me at the gate in the terminal. I decided that I just could not take on the extra emotional imbalance that was coming from Stеven. I was concerned with how to insist on the divorce again. I was very worried that he would again explode as he has historically done to anyone with any difference of opinion to his since late 2016. He begins to use a new strategy that he has decided to use; he begins talking about ending his own life and blames it on me. He goes on long rants at night in front of my locked bedroom door about how my mother is "rolling in her grave at the way I am treating him", and how my mother discussed private information with him that she has never told anyone else. He always tries to have leverage over me in any situation. He has a lack of morals that keeps him from seeing that telling someone you love them and then using the loss of my mother to hurt me further will not force me to continue further in an abusive marriage. March 2020 Stеven finally decides to begin therapy in March. I asked him to seek help as early as 2016, his unwillingness to focus on his mental health for 4 years has made his personal issues worsen and has allowed him to bring violence into our relationship. After a few therapy sessions the only results that are tangible to me would be a single sentence summing up the visit with his therapist. I come to find out that he had been diagnosed with Acute Anxiety Disorder that leads to his now daily violent fits of rage and emotional swings that are almost always focused at me, often forgetting that the issues that he insists on raging about had already been resolved. His accusations always focus on how I am having sex with anyone who happens across my path, how I corroborate with Javier (James) Howie Bad DJ Ramirez, whom he has built up in his psyche as being the most evil man alive or love of his life, and that even though I care for all of the daily home issues work full time while he does nothing to help apparently I am still not doing enough. Stеven told me that they key to all of his mental health issues is that he needs, "more support from Stеven". Stеven has multiple issues staying focused on his work that he needs to do from home during the beginning of the viral epidemic starting at the end of March 2020. The incident listed in the petitioner's account ofa March 8th is false and most likely submitted with false evidence. The only information I have around that date is that I went to a Costco that day. I made breakfast for us, took care of watering all of the plants, the Costco trip took 3 hours due to the lines, social distancing, and rush to purchase supplies to make it through what was about to become stay at home orders. I have no journal entries describing nor have I ever screamed in Stеven Grantham's face nor chased him through the house slamming doors and screaming at him. I have on multiple occasions had the exact same thing happen to me during the multiple instances of abuse from Stеven Grantham. Stеven also begins in March to assert that because we are married I am his and that I have to do what he says. On March 26th 2020 1 lose my job in the first round of layoffs. I am certain that due to my inability to manage my career due to personal issues with Stеven led to me being one of the very first people to obviously be let go. It is at this time that the stay at home order in LA begins. I am home, in an abusive relationship, living with an emotional and mentally damaged individual who is incapable of performing any normal daily activities. Because I am now unemployed and stuck at home in this situation I am accused of treating the situation like a vacation, I am expected to produce a list of all the work of the work that I will be doing around the house everyday, I am expected to perform lewd sex acts that Stеven is well aware are repulsive to me, I am yelled at and had things thrown at me if any noise occurs in the house while Stеven is focusing on work or his long suffering and deranged war with his unrequited lover Stеven (Stеven) Grantham. At this time Stеven stops sleeping for multiple days at a time claiming that he has too many responsibilities to sleep. Stеven spends all night watching the video cameras he has now placed around the entire house (inside and out) concerned that a cabal of his attackers are about raid our home, tracking the whereabouts of Stеven around LA, watching explicit pornography, and designing ways to destroy Stеven. Stеven spends his days attempting to meet his obligations while working from home. Any distraction at home is automatically blamed on Stеven. Stеven moves his bedroom to the furthest guest room away from Stеven. Stеven installs a dead bolt on the door of that bedroom as Stеven always attempts to storm into a room to initiate arguments, usually the arguments that he has been pacing back and forth in front of the closed and often locked door. Stеven at this time begins learning how to kick in any door in the home; the deadbolt at this time becomes the only way I am willing to continue staying in the home. I spend at least 5 prolonged periods of time during the day locked in the room while Stеven (Y Grantham screams and yells on the other side of the door. Often breaking anything in the area that he finds to destroy usually kitchen items are destroyed if left out. Many of these daily fits of rage are recorded on my cell phone. April 2020 For a period of 4 weeks Stеven has not gone outside the home, not even to the back yard. In the beginning of the month I found out that Stеven's supervisor at work had labeled him as Toxic. I can clearly state that if they were just exposed to 1% of the misery dispatched out by Stеven Grantham in our home they would have fired him the very moment he opened his mouth. Near the end of April as I expected Stеven Grantham failed to keep his job. Also as expected this is all blamed on Stеven. Stеven Grantham after going through some very dark days emerges again to finally do what he says will be his last interaction concerning Stеven. Every time I do anything I am blamed for taking Stеven away from this prime focus. This is a lie because even to this day he maintains a website attempting to do any damage he can to this person. He continues to talk with a group of people he has been in touch with because of the website. He can claim this is a group of victims, but it is actually more like his Cabal against Stеven. May 2020 One evening in May Stеven begins claiming that I never show him affection. This becomes the new focus of many of the rant and screaming that he engages in. One evening Stеven is preparing a bath. Stеven Grantham has slept all day. Stеven has kept as far away from Stеven on a regular basis as he is prone to fits of rage and crying with emotions raging with no clear understanding of what emotion Stеven would need to deal with next. As I prepared to get in the bath Stеven began screaming something and approaching the bathroom. As I attempted to find my clothing to drop everything that I am doing to address his latest emotional outburst he kicks the door in with one kick. He looks at me and sees that I have brought my laptop with me. He grabs my laptop and claims that it is his and he leaves the room, walks into the master bedroom slams and locks the door. He begins yelling at me in an emotional outburst. I angry and I stop listening to Stеven's constant idiotic raving that has now become his own person reality. I put a towel around my waist. I walk to my bedroom; I have a key there to all the doors in the house. I walk back to the master bedroom, open the door; watch him throw my computer across the room onto the bed, as he is yelling nothing important at me. I walk to the bed and as I grab my laptop I state this laptop is mine, I own it. As I turn with my laptop in my left hand Stеven move while yelling at me to block my exit from the room. With my right hand I push him out of my way. I walk with my laptop to my bedroom where I secure myself in the room. I am extremely upset at having to be attacked and defend myself and my property to someone who has stopped yelling and is now crying and raving uncontrollably throughout the home about how sorry he is and how much he loves me. This is the only time that I have ever touched Stеven aggressively and I was defending my property and myself. This makes his allegations included with his order a complete fabrication. Stеven continues to defame Stеven throughout the month via the website he has created and by the use if the Google contacts that he covertly stole from Stеven Grantham's account. At this time we have become involved with a couples therapist that we see on a weekly basis. Almost all of our hour-long video visits are focused on Stеven's problems in our relationship. He continues to assert as loudly as possible that I am not affectionate enough. June 2020 I spend nearly half of this month with my father helping him move out of the family home and sell the property. The time away from the home is relaxing and lets me lower the amount of tension I have been living under in my own home. Both times that I returned to LA I arrived to one disaster after another created by Stеven's inability to function as an adult. His neglect of everything leads tour pet dog failing at his recovery from a surgery and having to have a second surgery less than two month after the first. In the month of June the fireworks in our neighborhood become too much for Stеven tolerate and I worry that he is going to get hurt or hurt someone else when he focus his rage on the constant fireworks being shot off in the neighborhood. While at home during the month of June I would be forced to consider a good day to be one where I would only spend 5 stretches of time a day locked safely and away from verbal rage assaults by Stеven. I would wait until approximately 5 minutes after Stеven would stop yelling and screaming before I would return to the rest of the home to clean up anything he might have destroyed while in a normal fit of rage. Stеven continues to openly talk about ending his own life. His emotions rage from sad introspection when he feels that he is a failure and has no worth to focusing on how everything is actually all my fault. He refuses still to see that his lack of mental progress is rapidly ruining our lives together. July 2020 On the 9th of July 2020 1 (Stеven James Grantham) was shoved by my partner (Stеven Patrick O' Toole) after a discussion about forgiveness. I contacted the police and a decision was made to not arrest at that time. Two minutes after the police left our property (5227 S St Andrews Pl.) Stеven cornered me in a guest bedroom and refused to let me leave. When I brushed by Stеven to leave the room Stеven shoved me so hard that I was sent to the ground. I called the police again and had Stеven arrested and I asked for an Emergency Protective Order (EPO) # T-2005251. Stеven spent less than 12 hours jailed at the 77th St. precinct. At 11:50 Stеven arrived at the home to spend an hour to collect his belongings. I told him that out of concern for him I would allow a telephone contact schedule. I would call Stеven so that the EPO would not be broken. Immediately Stеven began using electronic devices to listen to, watch, and even communicate with me directly against the given EPO. The house had multiple Google home devices, wyze cameras, video doorbell, and home security system. For my safety I disconnected all wyze cameras inside the home. On Friday through Sunday the home alarm system was armed and set off without me activating it. On Sunday Stеven demanded that the Wyze cameras be returned to service inside the home. During the night Stеven used random Google home devices to play loud classical music keeping me from sleep. On Monday the 13th of July after the alarm would not stop going off I disconnected the security system and all of the Google home devices. After the disconnection all of my electronic devices from access to the Internet. My cell phone also had its data turned off. I fled the home. Stеven contacted me through a 3rd party and assured me the home would be safe for me to return to. Stеven was to be allowed to return to the home on the 16th of July at 5pm. He began communicating against his EPO at 10am. At llam he declared he had a flat tire. At Ipm he asked for help to get to the Honda Dealership, as I drove him to the car dealership he let me know that he had removed the car insurance for the car I was driving for the previous week without letting me know prior. Stеven had his flat tire 3 blocks from the home. Stеven moved into the home and accused me of having sex with multiple people throughout the week. After less than 24 hours Stеven demanded that I leave the home to a secure location, as he could not guarantee my safety in the home with him. While I was preparing to leave Stеven made multiple threats, including having the pet dog put to sleep. Multiple attempt were made to discuss rehoming both of us to complete the home sale and then divorce. Stеven's one stipulation for this was that I would resume a sexual relationship with him. When I refused Stеven became violent. Stеven then impersonated me to hinder my ability to access my money and email communications at the same time the vehicle I was in was vandalized Sunday night 16th August 2020. I would like my abuser removed from the home and restraining order placed against Stеven Patrick Grantham. I would like to retain sole ownership of the pet dog Chuckee and the vehicle 2005 Toyota Corolla. Stеven continues to harass Stеven on a regular basis. He constantly attempts to trap me into an argument with him. I have been asked by family, friends, attorneys, and my therapist to if at all possible never speak to him again. Even in his emails sent regularly requesting that I send him money he goes on about how much he loves me and/or raving on about how everything is my fault. Stеven still refuses to understand that there really is no excuse for physically attacking someone. He refuses to accept this responsibility as seen by his need to legally remove me from a place that I have not had access to since the 18th of July even though I am an owner of that property. Because of this refusal our home on 5227 S St Andrews Pl is not a safe place for me to be with him on the premises. Stеven J. Grantham